One Tribe: A Message from Awareness to Action International

Humans are tribal creatures and at a deep, non-conscious level we often associate “different” with “bad.” This innate bias served our ancestors well. To them, a stranger was likely to be a threat—a competitor for territory, mates, resources; a risk to their very lives. They were safe with members of their tribe who they knew […]

What Comes Next

Basic principle number one is that during a dual health and financial crisis, we are all going to be Preservers. Have you been focused on how to stockpile and conserve resources? Have you been mindlessly (or even mindfully, for that matter) cleaning and organizing more than usual? Have you been thinking more about your physical […]

Coaching Eights: Mercy, Grace, and Magnanimity

I was recently asked about an approach to coaching Eights; particularly, how to help them access the “high side of Two.” I’ve coached quite a few Eights over the years and, as I am an Eight myself, I have a few thoughts on the topic. This blog is a slightly extended version of my response. First, the […]

Problems vs. Conditions

In life, there are problems and there are conditions, and they are not the same thing. Here is an example of what I mean: My 16-year old son is 6’3” with an excellent vertical leap. He plays on a local club basketball team and, being the tallest player on his team and having an aggressive […]

Looking Past Three: The Instinctual Bias Subdomains

People tend to view the three instinctual domains as three discreet and specific “instincts”: self-preservation, social, and sexual (or one-to-one). This is an archaic and outdated view of biology, which is far more complicated. It is more accurate to think of these as three domains of related impulses, drives, or evolutionary adaptations that increased the likelihood that our ancestors would […]

Leadership and the Instinctual Biases: Preparing to Scale

Excerpted from the book “Instinctual Leadership: Working with the 27 Subtypes of the Awareness to Action Enneagram” by Mario Sikora with Maria Jose Munita. Copyright 2020. All Rights Reserved. As we stated in the previous section, no one can be good at everything. We don’t expect our finance people to be as good at selling […]

Power: How to Get It and Why

“Power tends to corrupt, and absolute power corrupts absolutely.” (Lord Acton) Acton may be correct (most people leave out the important word “tends” when repeating this quote), but I have never seen an effective leader who was powerless. In fact, the best leaders are powerful people who know how to use power appropriately. Most of us […]

My One Piece of New Year’s Advice

“So, what advice do you have for me?” asked Michael. The question took me a little by surprise. It came at the end of a social lunch, not a coaching session, but Michael was a client I have known for a long time and he never missed an opportunity to learn how to get better. […]

Working With the Instinctual Biases–Skill and Self-Management

When it comes to working with your instinctual biases, there are two things to focus on: Learning to manage our reactions to them rather than being managed by them, and Becoming more skillful at the activities related to the three instinctual domains. One might be tempted to think that doing one of these will automatically take […]

Responding to a Discussion on the Instinctual Biases

Warning–This post is for true Enneagram geeks! I was recently asked on a Facebook forum about my view on the instinctual biases and how they differed from some of the other perspectives; here is my response. Note that I will be part of panel discussion on this topic with Russ Hudson, Peter O’Hanrahan, and Beatrice […]